The Triggers…

April 27, 2012

I have spent the past 4, almost 5 years chasing the damn triggers.  The triggers that get in Zak’s little mind and cause him to meltdown.  What set Zak off today?  Why did he get so upset that he threw things and kicked his aide?  Why, even after all of these years, does he still feel the need to flee his classroom when the very best people are there to help him?

We chase and we chase and we chase.  And 95% of the time, we have no idea.  You see, it is incredibly hard to figure out the antecedent.  Was it the noise of the classroom?  Do his clothes bother him today?  Did he eat something that was not gluten free and it is irritating him (and we work so hard on this freaking GFCF diet).  It really can be anything and it could have occurred just before the meltdown or even weeks previous and now, he is remembering it while doing something typical.

An example is an incident with one boy in his class.  Zak was being picked on – nothing serious (I would like to punch the other kid but let’s be the adult here).   The teacher recognized it and moved the other boy away from Zak.  Days later, the kids were asked to work in two person groups and of course, Zak and this boy were put together.  Zak apparently did not like this and instead of saying he did not want to work with the other boy, he proceeded to kick the kid.  Now, we never condone violence in this house but my boy, who has a hard time expressing himself, decided to find his voice via his foot!.  When questioned on it, Zak flew into a rage and was not able to calm down for over 45 minutes.  Not being able to express themselves appropriately is a sure sign of PDD (pervasive development disorder).  Sometimes we can work with the trigger and find tools to help Zak from letting that issue happen again but a new one shows up and we are back at it.

The damn triggers.  We chase and we chase and we chase.   But as I promised Zak, we will win.  We have no other choice.

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

annonymous April 28, 2012 at 8:14 AM

Great post. Keep them coming!


annonymous April 28, 2012 at 8:18 AM

I would love to see a picture of Zak & the family


zaksdad April 28, 2012 at 3:34 PM

Thank you. I posted on our gallery page. Thanks for stopping by.


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